What the world has taught me about Love and Hate

What the World Has Taught Me About Love and Hate

The Evolution of Love and Hate

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Love and hate are inextricable. You can’t have one without the other. Just like you can’t have optimism without pessimism. You can’t have good without bad. The two exist only in measure. The idea is that the two opposites create the scale onto which we place our thoughts, feelings and emotions, and that without a scale to polarize such things, there would be no love, no hate, no optimism no pessimism, no good, no bad.

For a species to evolve and grow, there must be a net positive result, otherwise we will go extinct. We, and our children must thrive, otherwise we will die. Fortunately, human beings are hard-wired with a will to live and to thrive, and in order to do this, we must increase our net happiness; our love, our optimism, our good. But, is it possible to have one without the other?

In the course of my travels I have learned that humans are the same everywhere, in every culture, at every age. We all need food, water, shelter, and… love. Humans are passionate about love, but they are also passionate about hate. And no matter where you go, love exists and hate persists.

Following WWII, Germans were no longer allowed to hate. As a whole, they had committed terrible crimes of hate. The world condemned them, and they (thankfully) condemned themselves. They taught their children not to hate others. And they taught their children about the outcomes of hate. Did you know that all German children are required to visit WWII concentrations camps where they learn about the atrocities that their culture perpetuated?

But just like love and hate are divided, Germany was divided after the war. This time, not by their own doing. Splitting up Germany like the spoils of an invaded pirate ship, communistic Russia took East Germany, while England, France and the USA took control of West Germany.


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In 1989 when the Wall came down, the outside world cheered and saw roses and kittens. “Everything will be great in Germany now!” the world rallied. But for the Germans, reunification brought with it an opportunity to hate another human being. And it was permitted because it wasn’t about hating foreigners, it was about hating themselves. The East Germans envied the West Germans, the West Germans dissed the East Germans. More than 20 years after the fall of the Wall, rumblings of “Oh, they must be from East Germany” or “Oh, those snooty West Germans” still colour the underground landscape of German culture.

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Love needs hate. Without hate, love would not exist. And humans need love. Which also means humans need hate.

In a world inundated with terrorism, war, divided political systems, racism, sexism, homophobia, you name it…. The scales of love and hate seem to be tipping toward hate. But as individuals and humans as a whole, we can control the balance. Hate may always exist, but so will love. Finding a non-destructive outlet for hate is critical, but so is giving freely of the positive. So the next time you have the opportunity to comment on something or someone, try to make it a positive one. After all, for a species to evolve and grow, there must be a net positive result 

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